Agape: Happy Anniversary


This blog is for you.

August 27th, 1983 was the most important day of my life, because it was the celebration of the most important commitment in my life.

That day, the minister talked about agape; quite fitting that it is a Greek word. He spoke about agape in a religious context, referring to God's love being an unconditional love.

A wedding is a public declaration of love and commitment, supported and celebrated by a community of family and friends who love us. This loving community of family and friends continued to support our union not only on our wedding day, but also during the years that followed. Along with our agape vows, when I look back at that day over thirty years ago, many of those in our loving community are no longer with us. In this video clip are people who have loved us, and whom we have loved and lost:

When I look at how far we have come, I well up with tremendous gratitude. Thank you for sharing with me all of my joys. Thank you for always being in my corner, even when you didn't agree with me at times. Thank you for seeing and knowing all of my flaws and loving me in spite of them. Thank you for loving me during the easy times, and I especially thank you for loving me during the hard times. Thank you for being my soft place to fall and my strong rock to lean on when I needed it most. Thank you for your unconditionality. Thank you for your agape.

I don't consider myself to be a religious or spiritual person. I'm a lukewarm agnostic who revels in sacred ritual, sacred traditions and open-hearted sentimentality. I completely understand both the fervent atheist and the devout believer, as well as everyone in between. Like so many, I sit on the spiritual fence with arms wide open to the universe and creation, exclaiming, "I don't know".

However, in my lifetime, the closest thing I have ever come to having proof that God actually exists, is my experience of your love and presence in my life.

Thank you for loving me so.  Happy anniversary sweetheart.


PS I pray that my body will never see a tattoo.   ;)